HOW I TREAT OTHERS seems to remain the steady important THEME of my lifetime. Even though I am more than likely past the stage of life where anyone really notices much about my appearance or my qualifications, I am convinced that HOW I TREAT OTHERS still rules. Parents appear to worry about their children in beauty, intelligence, abilities, and achievements.
“Mommy, the other kids say that I have big ears,” says the boy.
“Honey, you are Mommy’s handsome boy, and the other kids are jealous of you,” comforts the Mom. What about encouraging the boy by pointing out his qualities to be a good friend? Maybe the boy can realize the possibility that something is wrong with some of the ring leaders and not him. Notice that the ones who say the unkind words the most probably do not understand how to be a friend? Usually, there is something wrong with the one who is making the accusation. Your child can learn to help and to learn skills to treat the “hard to love” people with understanding. Needless to say, beauty fades and credentials become useless, but our character and personalities last a lifetime. People remember us by how we have treated them.
At present I am going through a stage of social difficulty in an attempt to figure out where I fit. My husband died about fours years ago, and I feel awkward socially. When I walk into a room full of people by myself, I feel anxiety. This is a new feeling for me, and the more I think of how others in the room may be feeling (awkward or depressed), the more sensitive to others I become. The less of me, the more can be offered to others. I do not have to go to my “Mommy” and complain that someone said that my “ears were too big.” I begin to concentrate on “Let’s be friends.” Of course, I do not do this all the time, and I fail miserably quite a bit.
I am guilty of saying drastic comments that may affect someone adversely. James 1:19 “Let every man be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to take offense, and to get angry.” I guess God gave us two ears and one mouth, in order for us to listen more, and speak less.
Encouraging our children and grandchildren to develop a focus on helping others may be worth the effort compared to the idea of “flawless looks” or “most intelligent.”
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